a lifetime of waiting...
ocean1195
Boston, Massachusetts | Man Seeking A TS/TV/TG
Basic Information
I Can Speak
English
I Would Describe Myself As
I started here looking for some extraordinary sex. I have opened up (albeit ...a bit late) But...bottom-line NOT looking for a relationship. Just wanting to fuck
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Sign
Gemini
Appearance & Situation
My Body Type Is
A Few Extra Pounds
My Height Is
5' 6 (1.68 m)
My Eyes Are
Brown
My Ethnicity Is
Mixed Ethnic
My Marital Situation Is
Never Married
I Have Kids
No
My Best Feature Is
Hands
My Hair Is
Salt And Pepper
I Have One Or More Of These
Dog
Willing To Relocate
No
Status
My Education Level Is
College Degree
My Current Employment Status Is
Self-employed
My Speciality Is
Sales / Marketing
I Make This Much In A Year
$75,000USD To $99,999USD
I Live
With Roomate(s)
At Home
All Is Calm
I'm A Smoker
Yes - Socially
I Drink
No
Personality
Back In High School, I Was A
Average Joe
My Social Behavior Is
Comedic, Observant, Outgoing
My Interest And Hobbies Are
Computers, Cooking, Dancing, Exercising, Learning, Movies, Religion / Spirituality, Theater
An Ideal First Date Would Be
I am open...dinner...maybe some music or a show..
I've Always Wanted To Try
don't start me on this...too broad a question..not much I haven't done..and what I want to try is too vulnerable to just put out there...
My Friends Describe Me As Being
Friendly, Raunchy
Views
My Religion Is
Spiritual But Not Religious
I Attend Services
Once A Month
My Political Views Are
Not Sure
My Goal In Life Is
live peacefully...live well...serve the friends and family i love
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
Taste
On Tv, I Always Watch
News, Documentaries, Dramas, Movies
When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A
Action
When Listening To Music, I Always Listen To
Country, Dance, Jazz, Soul, Vacuum Cleaner Noises
When I Read, I Always Read
Business, Mystery, Philosophy, Poetry, Religious
My Idea Of Fun Is
Symphony, a musical, thai food, ball room dancing, Berkeley Performance Center
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Looking for
What Do You Find Attractive?
Good Looks, Intelligence, Sensitivity, Spontaneity, Thoughtfullness
What Kind Of Relationship Are You Seeking?
Friend, Date, Intimate, Doesnt Matter, Committed