Good and bad....in a good way

Je sais parler

Anglais, Japonais

Je me décrirais comme

I grew up poor and under difficult conditions, but that has managed to make me a strong, empathetic, and determined person. I'm not rich or especially well off, but I'm comfortable and I do what I love in an academic setting. I spend a lot of time reading and writing for a profession, but I would have probably done those things anyway. We went to the library as children because there was only one black-and-white TV, which did not have cable. So, those things became a habit. I learned Japanese from marginalizing conditions, too. Poverty can, only very rarely and if you are very lucky, create room for positivity, I think. I'm well-educated, but most of the crucial things about life and living well I learned outside of classrooms; you don't have to be especially "well-educated," but I would probably ask you your opinion on a lot of things because I'm a curious person and I'm interested in other people's viewpoints.

I'm light-skinned, but I'm black. I grew up in a poor, rural, highly-segregated town, and we were all black then, so that will always be true for me. Pretty obviously, racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. attitudes and ways of life are a non-starter for me. Of course, we all have blind-spots when it comes to those things, but I'm quick to check someone and I expect others to do the same, out of respect and consideration.

While I have had a Trans partner before, I'm not necessarily looking for a serious and committed relationship. I'm happy to just have fun and see where things go. I'm not against serious relationships, but I don't take them lightly. I'm also happy to just make friends. I hear I have a somewhat unique sense of humor that not everyone gets. Like, I might point out a ridiculous choice that I made, not looking for consolation but pointing out how funny it was that I did that. Or, I might make an excruciatingly bad joke to see your reaction when I tell it. For me, the best reactions are those that laugh at the fact that I would do that. So, I don't take myself seriously all of the time, but I do take some things seriously, such as work, friends, and lovers. I got the work ethic from my father, who always worked at least fourteen hours a day. I got the love and friends from lovers and friends.

I don't get as much time to listen to it as I would like, but I draw a lot of inspiration, in work and life, from hip hop. I'm not a purist. I like lyrical and mumble rap. But, I can't help but shake the feeling that I have good taste in hip hop. Of course, I'm happy to get schooled on MCs that I'm sleeping on.

Overall, I'm a very calm person in life, but I'm not always relaxed in a given moment. I have been told for about as long as I remember that I have an "intense" way of looking at people, told enough times to believe it's true. But, I'm not scary, and I don't mean to look as intense as I apparently do. That's just the way I look at people. And, I suppose that some of my ways of looking at things, I mean, some of my beliefs are intense, too. Not evangelical-sort of intense, of course, but, for example, I am an atheist. That's kind of a mild example, but my beliefs are intense in that I take them seriously and they tend to be "radical." I have also changed a lot in my life. Like, a whole lot, so maybe my most serious belief is that I can be wrong. I really try to be open-minded.

Fundamentally, I expect to be treated well, so if you take your anger out on others, are spiteful, put others down to make yourself look or feel better, I honestly think that's wack. That said, I am very happy to meet new people, and I treat others well and with kindness. As the saying goes, some people think that's weakness, but it's not. It's experience, I believe. Feel free to reach out to me. I will message you back and be very happy to hear from you.

Signe

Sagittaire

Ma silhouette est

Normale

Ma taille est

5' 11 (1.8 m)

Mes yeux sont

Marrons

Mon origine ethnique est

Afro-Américaine

Ma situation maritale est

Célibataire

J'ai des enfants

Non

Je veux des enfants

Pas sûr/e

Ce que j'ai de mieux

Yeux

Mes cheveux sont

Chauve

Prêt(e) à vivre ailleurs

Non

Mon niveau d'éducation est

Diplôme d'études supérieures

Ma situation professionnelle actuelle est

Plein-temps

Mon domaine de compétence est

Education / Académique

Je vis

Seul/e

Chez moi

Des amis passent à l'occasion

Je fume

Non

Je bois de l'alcool

Oui - socialement

Socialement, je suis plutôt

Réservé, Bruyant, Sympa

Mes passions et loisirs sont

Famille, Lecture, Sports, Apprendre, Musique, Films, Internet, Voyages, Bénévolat

Un bon moment pour moi c'est

Sortir avec des amis, Rester à la maison, Faire de nouvelles expériences, Regarder un bon film, Me relaxer, Dormir, Sorties en boîte / tour des bars, Boire un coup, Lire, Aller à un concert, Aller au musée

Un premier rendez-vous idéal, ce serait

We would have dinner, but the highlight of the meal would be the conversation. It could be funny. It could be thought-provoking. It could be heartfelt. But, it would be memorable. We go on a walk afterward in brisk weather that suddenly doesn't feel too cold at all. We go home together, or we don't.

J'ai toujours voulu essayer

Bungie Jumping

Mes amis me décrivent comme

Sympa, Trublion, Neuneu

Ma religion c'est

Athée

Je vais à la messe

Jamais

Mon but dans la vie c'est

To be happy and to make work and good memories with others that will both outlive me.

Mon sens de l'humour est plutôt

Intelligent, Sarcastique, Sympa, Neuneu, Coquin/e

A la télévision, je regarde

Films

Quand j'écoute de la musique, ce que je préfère c'est

Rap

Quand je lis, ce que je préfère c'est

Actualités, Philosophie, Politique, Sciences, Je suis auteur

Mon idée du fun

I climbed a mountain once. We were not properly prepared, and we were dirty, exhausted, and desperate on the way down. It started to rain. We laughed, which made a stranger laugh with us. A lot of things can be fun, if you have the right company and sense of humor.

Que trouvez-vous attirant?

Bon sens, Séduction, Spontanéité, Audace, Sensibilité, Empathie, Humour, Beauté, Délicatesse, Intelligence

Que recherchez-vous?

Sincerity, kindness, and open-mindedness

Quel type de relation recherchez-vous?

Pote virtuel, Vrai‧e ami‧e, Rendez-vous, Relation intime, Engagement, Peu importe, Sexe oral, Sexe anal