Good and bad....in a good way

Jag kan tala

Engelska, Japanska

Jag skulle beskriva mig själv som

I grew up poor and under difficult conditions, but that has managed to make me a strong, empathetic, and determined person. I'm not rich or especially well off, but I'm comfortable and I do what I love in an academic setting. I spend a lot of time reading and writing for a profession, but I would have probably done those things anyway. We went to the library as children because there was only one black-and-white TV, which did not have cable. So, those things became a habit. I learned Japanese from marginalizing conditions, too. Poverty can, only very rarely and if you are very lucky, create room for positivity, I think. I'm well-educated, but most of the crucial things about life and living well I learned outside of classrooms; you don't have to be especially "well-educated," but I would probably ask you your opinion on a lot of things because I'm a curious person and I'm interested in other people's viewpoints.

I'm light-skinned, but I'm black. I grew up in a poor, rural, highly-segregated town, and we were all black then, so that will always be true for me. Pretty obviously, racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. attitudes and ways of life are a non-starter for me. Of course, we all have blind-spots when it comes to those things, but I'm quick to check someone and I expect others to do the same, out of respect and consideration.

While I have had a Trans partner before, I'm not necessarily looking for a serious and committed relationship. I'm happy to just have fun and see where things go. I'm not against serious relationships, but I don't take them lightly. I'm also happy to just make friends. I hear I have a somewhat unique sense of humor that not everyone gets. Like, I might point out a ridiculous choice that I made, not looking for consolation but pointing out how funny it was that I did that. Or, I might make an excruciatingly bad joke to see your reaction when I tell it. For me, the best reactions are those that laugh at the fact that I would do that. So, I don't take myself seriously all of the time, but I do take some things seriously, such as work, friends, and lovers. I got the work ethic from my father, who always worked at least fourteen hours a day. I got the love and friends from lovers and friends.

I don't get as much time to listen to it as I would like, but I draw a lot of inspiration, in work and life, from hip hop. I'm not a purist. I like lyrical and mumble rap. But, I can't help but shake the feeling that I have good taste in hip hop. Of course, I'm happy to get schooled on MCs that I'm sleeping on.

Overall, I'm a very calm person in life, but I'm not always relaxed in a given moment. I have been told for about as long as I remember that I have an "intense" way of looking at people, told enough times to believe it's true. But, I'm not scary, and I don't mean to look as intense as I apparently do. That's just the way I look at people. And, I suppose that some of my ways of looking at things, I mean, some of my beliefs are intense, too. Not evangelical-sort of intense, of course, but, for example, I am an atheist. That's kind of a mild example, but my beliefs are intense in that I take them seriously and they tend to be "radical." I have also changed a lot in my life. Like, a whole lot, so maybe my most serious belief is that I can be wrong. I really try to be open-minded.

Fundamentally, I expect to be treated well, so if you take your anger out on others, are spiteful, put others down to make yourself look or feel better, I honestly think that's wack. That said, I am very happy to meet new people, and I treat others well and with kindness. As the saying goes, some people think that's weakness, but it's not. It's experience, I believe. Feel free to reach out to me. I will message you back and be very happy to hear from you.

Stjärntecken

Skytten

Min kroppstyp är

Medelmåttig

Min längd är

183 cm

Mina ögon är

Bruna

Min etnicitet är

Afroamerikansk

Mitt civilstånd är

Singel

Jag har barn

Nej

Jag vill ha barn

Osäker

Min bästa kroppsdel är

Ögon

Mitt hår är

Skallig

Villig att flytta

Nej

Min utbildningsnivå är

Universitetsexamen

Min nuvarande anställningsstatus är

Heltid

Min specialitet är

Utbildning / Akademiker

Jag bor

Ensam

Hemma

Vänner hälsar på då och då

Jag är rökare

Nej

Jag dricker

Ja - feströker

Mitt beteende i sociala sammanhang är

Reserverad, Högljudd, Vänlig

Mina intressen och hobbies är

Familj, Läsa, Sport, Lärande, Musik, Filmer, Internet, Resor, Volontärarbete

Att ha kul innebär för mig

Umgås med vänner, Stanna hemma, Prova nya saker, Bio, Tar det lugnt, Sover, Nattklubb / Bar, Att dricka, Läsa en bok, Gå på konsert, Gå på museum

Den idealiska första dejten för mig skulle vara att

We would have dinner, but the highlight of the meal would be the conversation. It could be funny. It could be thought-provoking. It could be heartfelt. But, it would be memorable. We go on a walk afterward in brisk weather that suddenly doesn't feel too cold at all. We go home together, or we don't.

Jag har alltid velat prova

Bungie Jumping

Mina vänner tycker att jag är

Vänlig, Bråkstake, Tramsig

Min religion är

Ateist

Jag går i kyrkan

Aldrig

Mitt mål i livet är

To be happy and to make work and good memories with others that will both outlive me.

Min humor är

Klok, Torr / Sarkastisk, Vänlig, Tramsig, Oanständig

På TV tittar jag alltid på

Filmer

När jag lyssnar på musik lyssnar jag alltid på

Rap

När jag läser föredrar jag följande:

Nyheter, Filiosofi, Politisk, Vetenskap, Jag är författare

Det jag tycker är kul är

I climbed a mountain once. We were not properly prepared, and we were dirty, exhausted, and desperate on the way down. It started to rain. We laughed, which made a stranger laugh with us. A lot of things can be fun, if you have the right company and sense of humor.

Vad tycker du är attraktivt?

Kvickhet, Flirtighet, Spontanitet, Djärvhet, Känslighet, Empati, Humor, Snygga drag, Omtänksamhet, Intelligens

Vad letar du efter?

Sincerity, kindness, and open-mindedness

Vilken form av förhållande söker du?

En Internet-kompis, Vän, Dejt, Intimt, Hängivenhet, Spelar ingen roll, Oralsex, Analsex