Good and bad....in a good way

Говорим

Енглески, Јапански

Мој опис

I grew up poor and under difficult conditions, but that has managed to make me a strong, empathetic, and determined person. I'm not rich or especially well off, but I'm comfortable and I do what I love in an academic setting. I spend a lot of time reading and writing for a profession, but I would have probably done those things anyway. We went to the library as children because there was only one black-and-white TV, which did not have cable. So, those things became a habit. I learned Japanese from marginalizing conditions, too. Poverty can, only very rarely and if you are very lucky, create room for positivity, I think. I'm well-educated, but most of the crucial things about life and living well I learned outside of classrooms; you don't have to be especially "well-educated," but I would probably ask you your opinion on a lot of things because I'm a curious person and I'm interested in other people's viewpoints.

I'm light-skinned, but I'm black. I grew up in a poor, rural, highly-segregated town, and we were all black then, so that will always be true for me. Pretty obviously, racist, sexist, homophobic, etc. attitudes and ways of life are a non-starter for me. Of course, we all have blind-spots when it comes to those things, but I'm quick to check someone and I expect others to do the same, out of respect and consideration.

While I have had a Trans partner before, I'm not necessarily looking for a serious and committed relationship. I'm happy to just have fun and see where things go. I'm not against serious relationships, but I don't take them lightly. I'm also happy to just make friends. I hear I have a somewhat unique sense of humor that not everyone gets. Like, I might point out a ridiculous choice that I made, not looking for consolation but pointing out how funny it was that I did that. Or, I might make an excruciatingly bad joke to see your reaction when I tell it. For me, the best reactions are those that laugh at the fact that I would do that. So, I don't take myself seriously all of the time, but I do take some things seriously, such as work, friends, and lovers. I got the work ethic from my father, who always worked at least fourteen hours a day. I got the love and friends from lovers and friends.

I don't get as much time to listen to it as I would like, but I draw a lot of inspiration, in work and life, from hip hop. I'm not a purist. I like lyrical and mumble rap. But, I can't help but shake the feeling that I have good taste in hip hop. Of course, I'm happy to get schooled on MCs that I'm sleeping on.

Overall, I'm a very calm person in life, but I'm not always relaxed in a given moment. I have been told for about as long as I remember that I have an "intense" way of looking at people, told enough times to believe it's true. But, I'm not scary, and I don't mean to look as intense as I apparently do. That's just the way I look at people. And, I suppose that some of my ways of looking at things, I mean, some of my beliefs are intense, too. Not evangelical-sort of intense, of course, but, for example, I am an atheist. That's kind of a mild example, but my beliefs are intense in that I take them seriously and they tend to be "radical." I have also changed a lot in my life. Like, a whole lot, so maybe my most serious belief is that I can be wrong. I really try to be open-minded.

Fundamentally, I expect to be treated well, so if you take your anger out on others, are spiteful, put others down to make yourself look or feel better, I honestly think that's wack. That said, I am very happy to meet new people, and I treat others well and with kindness. As the saying goes, some people think that's weakness, but it's not. It's experience, I believe. Feel free to reach out to me. I will message you back and be very happy to hear from you.

Хороскопски знак

Стрелац

Моје грађа

Просечна

Висина

180 цм

Боја очију

Смеђa

Раса

Црнац/Црнкиња

Брачно стање

Сингл

Имам децу

Не

Желим децу

Нисам сигуран/сигурна

Моја најбоља карактеристика

Очи

Боја косе

Ћелав/ћелава

Спреман/Спремна за селидбу

Не

Образовни ниво

Докторат

Мој радни однос

Пуно радно време

Моја струка

Образовање

Живим

Сам(а)

Код куће

Понекад ми дођу пријатељи

Пушим

Не

Пијем

Да - у друштву

У друштву сам

Уздржан/уздржана, Гласан/гласна, Дружељубив/дружељубива

Моја интересовања и хобији

Породица, Читање, Спортове, Учење, Музика, Филмове, Интернет, Путовања, Волонтирање

Како замишљам провод

Дружење с пријатељима, Волим да останем код куће, Волим да испробавам нове ствари, Биоскоп, Блеја, Спавање, Клубови/барови, Пиће, Читање, Концерт, Посета музеју

Мој савршен први састанак

We would have dinner, but the highlight of the meal would be the conversation. It could be funny. It could be thought-provoking. It could be heartfelt. But, it would be memorable. We go on a walk afterward in brisk weather that suddenly doesn't feel too cold at all. We go home together, or we don't.

Одувек сам желео/желела да

Bungie Jumping

Моји пријатељи кажу да сам

Дружељубив/дружељубива, Волим да изазивам невоље, Блесав/блесава

Религија

Атеиста

Идем у цркву

Никада

Мој животни циљ

To be happy and to make work and good memories with others that will both outlive me.

Мој смисао за хумор

Паметан, Сиров/саркастичан, Дружељубив/дружељубива, Блесав/блесава, Непримерен(а)

На ТВ-у увек гледам

Филмове

Увек слушам

Реп

Увек читам

Вести, Филозофске, Политичке, Научне, Ја сам писац

Како замишљам добру забаву

I climbed a mountain once. We were not properly prepared, and we were dirty, exhausted, and desperate on the way down. It started to rain. We laughed, which made a stranger laugh with us. A lot of things can be fun, if you have the right company and sense of humor.

Шта Вас привлачи?

Домишљатост, Флертовање, Спонтаност, Одважност, Осећајност, Саосећајност, Смисао за хумор, Изглед, Брижљивост, Интелигенција

Шта тражите?

Sincerity, kindness, and open-mindedness

Какву везу тражите?

Пријатељ на Интернету, Пријатељ, Састанак, Интима, Посвећеност, Небитно, Орални секс, Анални секс