a lifetime of waiting...
ocean1195
Boston, Massachusetts | Hombre Buscando TS/TV/TG
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I started here looking for some extraordinary sex. I have opened up (albeit ...a bit late) But...bottom-line NOT looking for a relationship. Just wanting to fuck
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Signo
Géminis
Apariencia y Situación
Mi tipo de cuerpo es
Algún kilo de más
Mi altura es
5' 6 (1.68 m)
Mis ojos son
Marrones
Mi raza es
Etnias Mezcladas
Mi situación marital es
Nunca Casado
Tengo hijos
No
Mi Mejor característica es
Manos
Mi pelo es
Sal y Pimienta
Tengo uno o más de estos
Perro
Me iría a vivir a otro lugar
No
Estatus
Mi nivel de estudios / educación es
Diploma Unversidad
Mi situación laboral actual es
Auto Empleo
Mi especialidad es
Ventas / Marketing
Mi salario anual es de
$75,000USD a $99,999USD
Vivo en
Con compañero/s de piso
En casa
Todo tranquilo
Soy Fumador
Si - Socialmente
Soy Bebedor
No
Personalidad
En el instituto, era
Un tipo normal
Socialmente, me describiría como
Cómico, Observador, Extrovertido/a
Mis aficiones e intereses son
Computadoras , Cocinar, Bailar, Hacer ejercicio, Aprender, Películas, Religión / Espiritualidad, Teatro
Mi primera cita ideal sería
I am open...dinner...maybe some music or a show..
Siempre he querido probar
don't start me on this...too broad a question..not much I haven't done..and what I want to try is too vulnerable to just put out there...
Mis amigos me describen como
Amistoso, Obsceno
Puntos de Vista
Mi religión es
Espiritual pero no religioso
Voy a la iglesia
Una Vez Al Mes
Mi meta en la vida
live peacefully...live well...serve the friends and family i love
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
Gustos
En la TV, siempre veo
Noticias, Documentales, Dramas, Películas
Si voy al cine, siempre me gusta ver una
Acción
Cuando escucho música, lo que más me gusta es
Country, Baile, Jazz, Soul, El ruido de la aspiradora
Cuando leo libros, lo que más me gusta es
Negocios, Misterio, Filosofía, Poesía, Religiosos
Mi idea de diversión es
Symphony, a musical, thai food, ball room dancing, Berkeley Performance Center
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Estoy buscando a
¿Qué te resulta atractivo?
Buena Imagen, Inteligencia, Sensibilidad, Espontaneidad, Detallista
¿Qué tipo de relación estás buscando?
Amigo/a , Cita, Íntimos, No importa, Comprometido