a lifetime of waiting...
ocean1195
Boston, Massachusetts | Uomo Cerca un/una TS/TV/TG
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I started here looking for some extraordinary sex. I have opened up (albeit ...a bit late) But...bottom-line NOT looking for a relationship. Just wanting to fuck
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Segno zodiacale
Gemelli
Apparenza
La mia corporatura è
Qualche chilo di troppo
La mia altezza è
5' 6 (1.68 m)
I miei occhi sono
Marroni
La mia etnia è
Etnia mista
Il mio stato civile è
Mai Sposato
Ho Figli
No
Le mie caratteristiche migliori sono
Mani
I Miei capelli sono
Sale e pepe
Ho una o più di queste
Cani
Volontà di trasferimento
No
Stato
Il mio livello di istruzione è
Maturità
La mia situazione lavorativa è
Autonomo
La mia specializzazione è
Vendita/ Marketing
Questo è quanto guadagno in un anno
da €75,000Euro a €99,999Euro
Vivo
Compagni di stanza
A casa
Tutto è calmo
Fumo
Sì - Sociale
Bevo
No
Personalità
Tornando alle Superiori, Ero
Pinco Pallino
Il mio comportamento sociale è
Comico, Osservatore, Estroverso
I miei interessi e Hobby sono
Computer, Cucina, Ballo, Tenersi in forma, Istruzione , Fim, Religione/ Spiritualità, Teatro
Un primo appuntamento ideale è
I am open...dinner...maybe some music or a show..
Ho sempre voluto provare
don't start me on this...too broad a question..not much I haven't done..and what I want to try is too vulnerable to just put out there...
I miei amici mi descrivono come
Amichevole, Volgare
Punti di Vista
La mia religione è
Spirituale ma non religioso
Partecipo alle Funzioni
Una volta al mese
I mie obiettivi nella vita sono
live peacefully...live well...serve the friends and family i love
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
Gusti
In televisione guardo sempre
Notizie, Documentari, Film drammatici, Fim
Quando vado al cinema vado sempre a vedere
Azione
Quando ascolto musica ascolto sempre
Country, Dance, Jazz, Soul, Il rumore dell'aspirapolvere
Quando leggo, leggo sempre
Business, Misteri, Filosofia, Poesia, Religione
La mia idea di divertimento è
Symphony, a musical, thai food, ball room dancing, Berkeley Performance Center
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
In cerca di
Cosa trovi attraente?
Bellezza, Intelligenza, Sensibilità, Spontaneità, Profondità
Che tipo di relazione stai cercando?
Amici , Incontri, Intimi, Non Importa, Impegnati