a lifetime of waiting...
ocean1195
Boston, Massachusetts | Homme Cherchant TS/TV/TG
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Je sais parler
Anglais
Je me décrirais comme
I started here looking for some extraordinary sex. I have opened up (albeit ...a bit late) But...bottom-line NOT looking for a relationship. Just wanting to fuck
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Signe
Gémeaux
Apparence & situation
Ma silhouette est
Quelques kilos en trop
Ma taille est
5' 6 (1.68 m)
Mes yeux sont
Marrons
Mon origine ethnique est
Métissage ethnique
Ma situation maritale est
Jamais été marié/e
J'ai des enfants
Non
Ce que j'ai de mieux
Mains
Mes cheveux sont
Poivres et sel
J'en ai 1 ou plus
Chien
Prêt(e) à vivre ailleurs
Non
Statut
Mon niveau d'éducation est
Diplôme universitaire
Ma situation professionnelle actuelle est
Auto-entrepreneur
Mon domaine de compétence est
Vente/Marketing
J'ai gagné cette année
De 75,000 € à 99,999 €
Je vis
En colocation
Chez moi
C'est plutôt calme
Je fume
Oui - socialement
Je bois de l'alcool
Non
Personnalité
Au lycée, j'étais un/e
Normal/e
Socialement, je suis plutôt
Comique, Observateur, Ouvert
Mes passions et loisirs sont
Ordinateurs, Cuisine, Danse, Faire de l'exercice, Apprendre, Films, Religion/Spiritualité, Théâtre
Un premier rendez-vous idéal, ce serait
I am open...dinner...maybe some music or a show..
J'ai toujours voulu essayer
don't start me on this...too broad a question..not much I haven't done..and what I want to try is too vulnerable to just put out there...
Mes amis me décrivent comme
Sympa, Coquin/e
Points de vue sur la vie
Ma religion c'est
Croyances spirituelles mais pas religieuses
Je vais à la messe
Une fois par mois
Mon but dans la vie c'est
live peacefully...live well...serve the friends and family i love
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
Goûts
A la télévision, je regarde
Actualités, Documentaires, Drames, Films
Quand je vais au cinéma, je regarde toujours
Action
Quand j'écoute de la musique, ce que je préfère c'est
Country, Dance, Jazz, Soul, Le bruit de l'aspirateur
Quand je lis, ce que je préfère c'est
Monde des affaires, Mystères, Philosophie, Poésie, Religions
Mon idée du fun
Symphony, a musical, thai food, ball room dancing, Berkeley Performance Center
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Recherchant un/e
Que trouvez-vous attirant?
Beauté, Intelligence, Sensibilité, Spontanéité, Délicatesse
Quel type de relation recherchez-vous?
Vrai‧e ami‧e, Rendez-vous, Relation intime, Peu importe, Engagement