a lifetime of waiting...
ocean1195
Boston, Massachusetts | Man Op zoek naar een TS/TV/TG
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Ik spreek:
Engels
Ik beschrijf mezelf als:
I started here looking for some extraordinary sex. I have opened up (albeit ...a bit late) But...bottom-line NOT looking for a relationship. Just wanting to fuck
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Then – I started communicating with a few women. The communications were not sexual. (Some of the initial contacts were very sexual – but they were looking for generous men. That was more of what I was expecting.)
However – the more I spoke with a couple of women here, the more admiration I began to have for each of them. I am still not clear that I have the kind of courage it takes to create a full transformation. And I am not talking sexual – I am talking about living into a vision of yourself. It became clear how extraordinary it was for, at least one of these new friendships, she is a person who had this immense courage to live into massive and complete vision/transformation. I began to admire the courage, and in many ways envy that commitment. I have taken many brave steps in my life – but none so completely. In both of these new friends it is a spiritually based transformation.
As a result, I find myself opening up in ways I did not expect to happen.
This whole experience has turned head my around. I am very clear that I could be very happy with the right woman. This ‘non-traditional’ male –female relationship was not on my radar, nor thinkable in the past. I was unaware of the attraction which is now very alive. So... I am interested in finding a friend/mate. who is more interested in how she will be treated, respected, loved – than how old I am …damn I am 60. This was not in my playbook. But…on the other hand…at 60, I intend to live more by what I know I want than what will work in the view of others.
As to what I'm looking for – I love the tender, more feminine qualities in a woman. Women, some women have this ability to welcome a man in… In the past I have been made to feel more whole by this accepting, loving and often nurturing qualities in a partner (woman). I have seen this very clearly and profoundly in at least one remarkable woman on this site. I am a very open, passionate man...I am told I am kind, generous, funny ...AND… I can also be very intense.
I like to explore myself and others, spiritually and emotionally. I like art, nature, dogs, meditation and prayer, beaches, warm climates – Brazil, Costa Rica, St. John. I like National Public Radio, Gershwin, Stanley Turrentine, Ella Fitzgerald, Frank Sinatra, Nickelback, Stones, Spinners, everything but Heavy Metal and Rap…etc. like to dance, ballroom in particular (though I am not very good at it – I have not had the right partner).
Through some very challenging times – I believe I have learned how to be an authentic friend, a lover and a support person. I have always been single. Never married no kids. And that is because I didn't really know how to be a friend in the past. Through illness and death I have been encouraged /forced to look at my shortcomings in this area.
I believe, you have to be a friend to be a lover. That took me a long time to figure out – okay so I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
I grew up on the streets of Boston. Southie. (That's kind of an oxymoron – if you know Southie – to think I am pursuing a relationship with a pre-op TS or postop. Southie is a remarkably narrow-minded and prejudice pop. )
I have lost my toughness/arrogance (thank God) but not my bad boy. I can be an old-school gentleman; opening doors, acknowledging a new color lipstick, a change in dress, publicly demonstrating my caring and respect…and a slut in the bedroom.
Maybe it is important to know ... I am in Gilford NH about 2 out of every 5 weeks. In Hingham Ma the other 3.
Sterrenbeeld
Tweelingen
Uiterlijk & Situatie
Mijn Lichaamstype Is
Een paar extra kilo's
Mijn Lengte Is
5' 6 (1.68 m)
Mijn Ogen Zijn
Bruin
Mijn Ethniciteit Is
Ethnische Mengte
Mijn Burgerlijke Staat Is
Nooit getrouwd
Ik Heb Kinderen
Nee
Mijn Beste Eigenschap Is
Handen
Mijn Haar Is
Halfblond
Ik heb één of meer van deze
Hond
Ben je bereid te verhuizen?
Nee
Status
Mijn Opleidingsniveau Is
VWO
Mijn Huidige Werkstatus Is
Zelfstandig
Mijn specialisatie is
Militair
Mijn jaarsalaris is:
Tussen de €75.000 en €100.000
Ik Woon
Met Huisgeno(o)ten
Bij mij thuis
Is het lekker rustig
Ik Ben Een Roker
Ja - Als ik uitga
Ik Drink
Nee
Persoonlijkheid
Op de middelbare school was ik
Gewoon
In sociale situaties ben ik
Grappig, Opmerkzaam, Gezellig
Mijn Interesses En Hobbies Zijn
Computers, Koken, Dansen, Fitness, Nieuwe Dingen Leren, Films, Religie / Spiritualiteit, Theater
Een perfecte eerste date is
I am open...dinner...maybe some music or a show..
Wat ik altijd al eens heb willen proberen:
don't start me on this...too broad a question..not much I haven't done..and what I want to try is too vulnerable to just put out there...
Mijn vrienden beschrijven me als
Vriendelijk, Ranzig
Meningen
Mijn Geloof Is
Spiritueel Maar Niet Religieus
Ik Ga Naar Diensten
Een keer per maand
Mijn Doel In Het Leven Is
live peacefully...live well...serve the friends and family i love
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
2nd...make money...live in (or have a second home in the Caribbean or South America
Smaak
Op tv kijk ik:
Nieuws, Documentaires, Drama's, Films
In de bioscoop kijk ik:
Actie
Als ik naar muziek luister, luister ik altijd naar
Country, Dance, Jazz, Soul, De Stofzuiger
Ik lees graag
Business, Mysterie, Filosofie, Poëzie, Religieus
Mijn Idee Van Plezier is
Symphony, a musical, thai food, ball room dancing, Berkeley Performance Center
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Swimming, the gym, a movie at home and cooking for someone I care for
Zoekt
Wat vind je aantrekkelijk?
Goed Uiterlijk, Intelligentie, Gevoeligheid, Spontaniteit, Bedachtzaamheid
Waar ben je naar op zoek?
Vriend, Date, Intimiteit, Maakt niet uit, Vastigheid